Archive | May, 2023

We miss you

17 May

James, Annelie, Aunty Jane, Joy, Granny Lulu, King Grandpa, Suzie, The Mercury Man, River Phoenix, David Bowie, John Lennon, Prince, Amy Winehouse, Iris, Grace

and countless others

We’ve all experienced loss

We’ve all experienced grief

When you’re surrounded by

spirits

When you can sense and

feel their energy

Or sometimes their distance

Knowing they’re not far away

Just somewhere over the rainbow

I’ve shed waterfalls of tears

When it comes to loss

James, diagnosed with

Schizophrenia

But such a beautiful soul

I remember biking to Hurlingham

With you

Singing Bob Marley songs

Whether you fell or jumped

It doesn’t matter

Because I know you flew

Those visions I get of you

On the other side

In a boat

On the water

Coming to see me in bird

form

Walking on my own

And telling me to look back

To see the perfect rainbow

You were such a beautiful

writer

Such a delicate energy

I still feel you sometimes

But the distance feels greater

Annelie

We lost you to alcohol

But those piercing blue eyes

And white blonde hair

Your art on the walls

in Vermont

The colours you used

Telling me how you were

feeling

I spoke to a guy in AA once

When I was leaving GA

He said he loved alcohol

more than his wife

more than his life

The Buddhist monks created

alcohol

The spirit

When it takes hold of you

The affliction of the addiction

Feels stronger than you

That’s when you need

Your higher power

To surrender

Step 1

of the 12 Steps

‘God, grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot

change

The courage to change the

things I can

and the wisdom to know

the difference’

Annelie came to see me

as a bird in Vermont

She told me to look after

her partner

my uncle Tom

And I will

Aunty Jane, without you

I wouldn’t have my flat

So I am grateful to you

Every day

For your kindness towards Will,

Laura, Mill and me

Without child

We remember staying with

you in Croydon

Your dogs

Your sandwiches

You turning up four hours

before Christmas lunch

It was hilarious

But we loved you for it

Running down to see you

in our pyjamas

After opening our stockings

You were under 5ft

I think your growth was stunted

When Grandpa lost his leg

In the war

The shock

We miss you

Joy

What a magic sister you were

to Granny Lulu

In the end you lost your

mind

to Dementia

But I could see you were

just in your own world

And I drew comfort in that

Granny Lulu

What a gift you had

It’s in your blood line

With the name St Clair

Your gift was strong

Thank you for all the love

and memories with Grandpa

In Portugal

In your flat

Watching Little Lord Fauntleroy

My Fair Lady

These films had a big impact

On my life

You always gave me such

wise advice

You battled Osteoporosis, had

a quadruple heart bypass,

several strokes

Having to learn to walk

again

Yet you never complained

Had a unique relationship

With each of your grandchildren

and Cami

Your great grand daughter

King Grandpa

Cami gave you that name

And boy, it suited you

I remember you sitting at

the head of the table at

Jules’ for Sunday lunch,

Christmas, any occasion

Becoming more and more

outrageous as the years went

on

The way you cared for Granny

So much love and devotion

You taught me so much

about your relationship with

Granny

A champion 100 yard sprinter

You held the record for 50 years

A fantastic rugby player

You joined the Grenadier Guards

And danced with The Queen

Fought heroically in the

Second World War

Losing your leg

On that Fateful Day

21st March at noon

The same day and time

That your uncle, Geoffrey Bassett

Lost his life in the First

World War

Who you were named after

But you continued on

With style

Marrying Granny

Giving birth to your two children

Michael, my father and Julia

Running a successful drinks

company

You brought us so much joy

and laughter

We still love you

And sometimes I sense you

At the most random of moments

‘Love you darling Al’

You never seem that far away

Suzie, we never met

But Tom has told me

You were the most incredible

healer

With a rare powerful gift

Your husband told Tom

You still continue your

work in heaven

And you really do

People like you are rare

gifts

That graced this earth

We are all fortunate due

to your powers

You seem to continue on

And we are forever grateful

The Mercury Man

Where to begin dear Freddie

My Rock God

Your power on stage

Your pace

Your skill

Your voice

Your laugh

I remember when you came

through briefly

Telling me I was born to

be on stage

I’ve never forgotten

And continue to learn

from everything you achieved

in life

Taken by Aids

But your last song saying

The words ‘ I still love you’

Well I still love you Freddie

River Phoenix

What a life

What a soul

Not sure who it was who

came through

Some kind of connection to

your spirit

Looking through my photo

albums

Teaching me how to cry

When I was at Drama

School

Telling me all your siblings’

names

So many visions

So many stories

Who knows what it was

But it felt so real

And the revelations were

incredible

David Bowie

What an artist

What a revolutionary

Your music

Your make up and costumes

‘John, I’m only dancing’

Leads me on to

John Lennon

One of my favourite lyrics you

wrote

‘Why do you think you’re

here, when you’re everywhere’

Everything you achieved with

the Beatles

and as a solo artist

I remember the time when

you came through

When your son Sean

was writing Friendly Fire

My favourite jeans

and t-shirt

I was often barefoot at

that time

Such creative times and

memories

You were shot

Taken suddenly, unfairly

But your work lives on

Imagine, that album

Along with Queen got me

into writing songs and lyrics

Prince

What an all round genius

of a musician

I am learning more about

your work, your moves

and what you did

recently

My brother was always a

big fan of yours as is Tom

Amy Winehouse

Where to begin

You achieved so much in

such a short space of time

Your soul voice

Your unique nature

Pretty sure it was your

guidance that led me

to meeting someone

that night

Always there sometimes far

Sometimes close

It was the drugs and drink

that got you in the end

part of the magic 27 club

You will always be remembered

Iris

What a friend you were to

Cami

Taken too young

So many rainbows

So much light

Such an incredible spirit

You are sorely missed

Taken by a tragic accident

Grace

The only sister to three

brothers

You died at seventeen

I’ve never cried so much

at someone’s funeral

It’s been fourteen years

Since you died

Such a beauty

An amazing swimmer

So creative

I remember that time

a bird came to my

window sill and I felt

it was you

I love your family and

your friends

Your grace lives on

There are so many others

We have lost along the

way

Everyone can relate to

grief

They are not far away

Some people we have lost

in life

People drift apart

But we carry on living

Almost in parallel lives

We are all a lot closer

than we realise

no need to ever feel

alone

We care

Any they’re just over there

Doctors Who Smoke

16 May

I wrote this piece once
Doctors smoke
I put it up on poetry.com
But they took it down
They would
There are doctors who smoke
The drinking culture at Kings
Was obscene
There was this one girl
A student
Who used to make herself
Sick
Just so she could drink more
But the ones who smoke
They know the negatives of smoking
But there are positives of smoking too
Believe it or not
I’ve looked them up
I used to smoke American Spirit
As it doesn’t contain chemicals
The real killers
It kept me in tune
With the native Americans
And the rituals associated with smoking
So I’m in Agios Nikolaos
In a waiting room
With my boyfriend
Who has just had an ECG
Which is normal
So we’re waiting to see the doctor
Diabetes type II
Which I did a presentation on
During my Access course to Medicine
And another one at Kings
Sleep Apnoea
FND
High blood pressure
Anti depressant withdrawal syndrome
Due to Venlafaxine
Do you know how it feels
To be me?
Do I know how it feels
To be you?
I do try to understand
Yes there’s the method acting
But there are also my senses
And my gifts
I wanted to work in A&E
And/or research medications
Because most of them are terrible
With dire side effects
Treat the cause
Not the symptom
Like most western medics do
You need to look at your health overall
Tongue analysis
Heart rate
Nutrition is absolutely key
And how much exercise you need
You’re individual, unique
It’s fascinating and important
To get to know your genes and DNA
We are in the dark ages
But we haven’t always been
If you look to the East
And you look to the past
There’s a lot we need to remind ourselves
Meditation
Vibration
Healing
Kinesiology
Reiki
Your chakras
Biokinesis
So with all that’s going on in the world
And trust me there’s a lot
Try to stay calm
Level headed
Sleep is vital
For literally everything
I’ve saved three lives
In my life
All in a different way
One, the Heimlich Maneuver
Another, a baby who had a severe dairy allergy
Which I told his mother about
But she didn’t listen to me
Until he was in hospital and could hardly breath
I said doctors don’t study nutrition
And that cream’s got lactose in it
If you don’t take him to a nutritionist
He may die
So she did
And he got better
The third, I used my gift
Which I don’t often do
But this spirit was frenetic
So I passed on what he had to say
And days later she told me
‘You saved my life,
I was going to put rocks in my pockets
And jump off a cliff
But after what you did
And what you said
I didn’t
Thank you’
I tend to block it out
That gift
But I’ll use it if I have to
Otherwise it’s too distracting
And to be honest
I’ve got enough to focus on
With the living
Do you suffer from anxiety or depression?
The two most common
Mental health conditions
Please try therapy
And if you can’t wait
Can’t afford it
Look within
And keep reading
Your gut is like your second brain
Understanding that could be the key
The real code to your web
Medication should be your last resort
Seriously
Because trust me
They’re so hard to get off
And your brain becomes reliant on them
They also damage you
The stars change colours
As do we
Make sure you do the right thing
When your colours change